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My sis said if we are going to do this, let it be on my terms.

 "One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation." - Arthur Ashe






I was shocked to see the new hair cut even before the chemo started! Of course, I loved it, definitely a change as Jess has never had short hair as long as I've known her... her response, "well It's going to fall out anyways."

Come to think of it, I've never seen an up-close battle of someone fighting cancer except for in the movies, / tv shows. You see the actors/ actresses portraying what seems to be a traumatizing moment, them waking up hair falling out, I truly couldn't image. My sis said if we are going to do this, let it be on my terms! Taking control of the situation even knowing the outcome not only takes strength, but an immense amount of courage. Imagine knowing what's to come and still preparing for it through the tears... I showed up to her house that weekend (she partied for 3 weekends in a row before chemo started y'all) and the first thing she said was, " you like my new hair?" a rendition of Salt and Peppa circa 1988 BUT CUTER-- all she needed was an 8-ball jacket-- I LOVED IT






Maybe it was the Casamigos or maybe not, but her ability to turn A BIG DEAL! into a casual conversation piece put me at ease which I hope put her at ease... a testament to we will love you NO MATTER WHAT, with hair or without! And you are just as beautiful no matter what. I want to remind her no part of this experience will be described as fun, or easy, or smooth but damn it we are going to smile when we can to keep from crying, 

If you watched her video in the last post, you'll see she mentioned to getting a wig.-- awww SOOKIE SOOKIE now,  



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